Hi friends! Welcome to the blog.

I am sharing with you powerful method to discover the REAL reason behind literally everything in your life.

Know your “WHY” and the “how” will follow.

It may seem like a simple idea, but sometimes the simple will blow your mind and help you discover truths you never knew existed deep down in your soul.

So, how does it work? Where and when to begin asking “Why”?

The #1 rule is to approach this technique with curiosity. Do not judge yourself or someone else. Keep all adjectives out of the equation. Stay curious. Approach your thoughts gently and with curiosity. Judgement will scare them away and you will never get to the bottom of whatever it is you are trying to discover. Let’s look at an example:

I want to stop spending 5-7 hours of your time on TikTok. (Don’t judge. Just stay with this fact.)

WHY? –> Because I don’t want to waste so much time browsing on social media.

WHY? –> Because it’s not very productive.

WHY? –> Because I don’t need to be online for so long.

WHY–> Because I should be doing other things like chores around the house.

WHY?–> Because those things are more important?

(There may come a point where your question involving WHY might get a bit fancy, but just flow with it….)

WHY am I not doing the chores and watching TikTok instead? –> Because I don’t like to do dishes and fold laundry?

WHY? –> Because I do it all the time, and don’t want to do it all the time.

WHY? –> Because I get tired of it, and it always falls on me to do it.

WHY? –> Because no one else does it, so I have to do it?

WHY? –> Because if I don’t do it, I won’t have any clean clothes or dishes.

Ah! Did we land somewhere? YES!

You spend 5-7 hours on TikTok because you don’t like doing chores, BUT you do WANT to do the chores because otherwise you won’t have clean clothes and clean dishes.

Listen, this is just the very tippy top of the iceberg. The questions vary and can go in endless directions. The ground that get uncovered during a coaching session has no direction and potentially no end. Sometimes you’ll land on an answer a lot sooner than you expected. Most of the time the lightbulb moment is an emotional one, one you didn’t realize existed.

Maybe you WANT to do dishes and laundry but all you would like is a Thank You, but then you realize you don’t need appreciation from anyone else in the house. You need to appreciate YOURSELF. I have to tell you that this has personally brought me to tears. The realization that I don’t appreciate and love myself as much as I love my family and friends has shocked and surprised me numerous times.

Sometimes you realize you don’t really HAVE to do dishes or laundry. You can delegate those tasks or pay someone to do it. Other times you realize you actually love taking care of your family and you need to take time for yourself to decompress in a meaningful way like stretching, a bath, or a nap instead of scrolling on TikTok and comparing your life to others.

The moral of the story is to know your WHY. You will figure the HOW. Most people want to know the “How” before anything else, but trust me when I tell you that the “how” will come to you with a mindset that’s aware of your WHY first. I promise you that this approach will produce positive results in your life. Give it a try and let me know what you think. Want me to coach you through it, please email me and let’s get on a FREE call so I can help walk you through your WHY.

Be well,

Nilo